"Friends"
This is the most volatile, most inflammable, most noxious, most explosive topic in dating.
The "friends" topic.
To guys, the phrase "lets be friends" is like a funeral dirge. It signals the death of a wish or hope. Typically, the hope of having any kind of relationship (long or short term) with this person. I suspect girls see this as prolonging a relationship or extending it into a new realm. To guys, it means the beginning of the end. Who is right?
Well, this is the "Biitter Male Chronicles" and I'm not interested in being fair or righteous. So, lets go on with the rant.
A friend of mine says that being a girl's friend is just being her "emotional tampon". Somebody she can cry to about her life and other relationships when things are bad. When things are good, you hear a lot less from her. I haven't really had this experience.
In my experience, the "lets be friends" speech is usually the way a girl shows she is not interested in dating for the purpose of exploration of the possibility of a relationship. She has made up her mind and you aint it. But, she will not discard a suitor so quickly. So, rather than just dump you or being absolutely honest, she says lets be friends. The door is not close, it is ajar. This should be a warning to you.
To the guy, this means that there is still potential. In reality, there is none. So, the guy ends up wasting valuable time with this friend. Time he should be spending searching for a mate. Girls will read this and think, "thats so unfair. He's learning so much from me and he will be a better guy with whom girls will want to be. All because of my training". Bullshit. You just want a friend to help you deal with your own anxieties, life, and loneliness.
For 99% of women, Friend is a four letter word. There are some women with whom you really can be friends. The rest you should kick to the curb.
